In the beginning

OK, here it is. My own blog. Yea! Anyway, I'd like to thank my friend Roz for guiding me to this site. Now that I'm here I suppose I can use this to create journal of sorts to document my thoughts and experiences. I don't have a particular aim or goal in mind, however, I do feel this endeavor may help clear my mind and provide a therapy of sorts.

At the moment I have a lot on my mind. The economy, relationships, friendships, religion, politics, women, education.....etc. Needless to say this is going to be lengthy at times. I acknowledge having strong opinions about many subjects while being aloof to others so I'll probably just gloss over certain topics and dig deep into others.

I don't expect anyone to pay any mind to my rants, but comments are welcome. Perhaps I'll learn a bit about myself...or just offend many in the process. Either way I don't seek to offend anyone, but I'm sure that will occur. My friends will note that I am direct and don't sugar coat my thoughts. I believe in being tactful but sometimes tact needs to be kicked through the uprights.

With that said, I'll start off with what's currently on my mind...facebook, friends and exes (former significant others). Last night a friend of mine (who shall remain nameless) wanted to know how it came to be that I was "friends" with a particular female on FB. Now, I don't think I've ever had anyone question me as to why I had a particular person listed as a "friend," but this question did have merit. As it turns out, my real friend was formerly involved in a relationship with this particular female. This was news to me since I didn't know this female on an individual basis nor was I aware that my friend and she dated in the past. This female requested to be my "friend" some months back and I accepted assuming she was associated with my social circle in some form. That was not the case. Well, needless to say my friend was not pleased about my association with his ex and asked I remove her from my "friends" list.

Exes are a touchy matter many. I am of the thought that on ex is an "ex" for a reason. Either you got dumped or you dumped him/her. The point being that an intimate relationship is no longer healthy from at least one person's point of view. Logic dictates when a relationship comes to an end your exes actions should not be of any concern. We are not logical creatures, however, when matters of the heart are involved.

Now getting back the situation at hand. Since I don't know this female and I value my friendship and bond with my friend, this was a non-issue for me. The female was unceremoniously removed from my friend's list and the matter resolved. This could have been avoided by not adding this person in the first place, since I make it a point to not add people I don't know as "friends" on FB. Assumptions make asses out of oneself (as we have all heard).

I just wonder, however, what were this person's motives in requesting me as a friend? We communicated a total of one time since I accepted her request, so I'm puzzled needless to say. For another, my friend was truly disturbed and angry because of this issue. I don't know the nature of his relationship with the female in question, nor is it any of my business, but I ask myself, 'If she's an ex, what does it matter who she associates with?' Some of us are possesive and jealous when it comes to significant others...an unfortunate reality especially if a relationship no longer exists.

As I stated earlier, because I value my friendship this was not an issue with me in any form. I must also add that I am strongly opposed into getting involved with any of my friend's exes. I've seen it happen around me on various occasions and it is always ugly for those involved. Too many women out there to focus on your buddy's girl/ex.

That's it for now...unless I have something else to rant about later.

Hasta Luego!