A few weeks ago I had a conversation with an old friend and the topic of kids came up. She asked if I ever wanted to have any of my own. This question has been asked of me many times by different people on different occasions and in various forms. My simple answer has always been that I don't want kids. Usually my response is met with bewilderment. It is assumed most people want to marry and have children of their own. I don't fall into that category. I've felt this way for most of my life.
I wonder sometimes why it is that I feel this way. I had a wonderful childhood, have loving and supportive parents and sister. Many have told me throughout the years that I am lucky to have such a family. I must agree with them all because I do feel loved by my family and I return it as well.
With this upbringing one would think I would desire a family of my own. I have my reasons for not wanting kids, but the prime reason would have to be that I have no parental instinct or curiosity to procreate. Truth is I've never been good with kids and I have little patience for parental responsibilities.
I had a small taste of parenthood's responsibilities when I lived with my ex-girlfriend and her son. He was a good kid, respectful and kind. Nonetheless, I knew after sometime that the world of parenthood was not for me. Going to little league games/practices, kids parties, watching kids movies, etc. These were just some of the things I didn't like, but the overall responsibility of having a kid just seemed like such a drag! I found myself not being to happy and quite depressed.
Some have suggested that I would feel different about doing those things if it were my own kid. I doubt it. I'm much too concerned with my own well-being and happiness to devote my life to a child. This admission has provided me with much freedom.
To those that do chose to bring life into this world, it is my hope that much thought and love is devoted to such decision. It is a tragedy to have so many unwanted and unplanned souls roaming this earth without love and guidance.
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I like this one very much. There are soooo many people out there who think they're supposed to have kids, but end up being crappy parents because they didn't want to be a parent in the first place. I truly admire honesty like yours, big bro!
ReplyDeleteBro, I respect ur opinion n u r right, its not for everyone. Never say never. Someday you might b pushing a Harley Davidson stroller with lil Steve. I can actually picture that.
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